When you’ve been burned by so many diets and other programs, it’s hard to want to seek help again.
Women write to me all the time about their pain with overeating or food addiction.
And I’m always so moved by the level of honesty- it’s really common for women to tell me that they’ve never told ANYONE about their eating or binges or purging or use of laxatives. When you have what you consider a “dirty little secret” or feel like you’re living a double-life because others see you as being so together, that’s a living hell in my book.
And yet…
There is a LOT of fear around taking action, investing in another program, hiring a new mentor… and with good reason. Seriously, how many of you have been seriously disappointed or “burned” from programs or people that you thought would be able to help? And then there’s the investments… my clients and the women that connect with me online or through email have spent a LOT of money. When you’re in pain and can’t get out from under on your own, you may invest in somebody you think can help.Only to be disappointed.. again.
So how do you get through the fear of going through it again?
Of pulling up your courage, dusting off your willingness to trust somebody else, facing your own fears that you’ll be the one who just can’t get it ( I think everyone is really afraid of this- that they’re the only one who will be left stuck and suffering no matter what they try and worse that it will be all their fault).
It’s enough to give anyone pause. And it’s smart. Because where do you get the faith to try again? How DO you overcome the fears and skittishness about giving it yet another shot?
It’s something I try to help with, but I get it. It’s a big deal to try again. But if you stop trying, then you’re stuck with where you are. Huge dilemma.
A big part of the complimentary phone consultations I offer are around the fears women have. Soothing fears, and trying to help women align with the healthy strong part of themselves that has accomplished many other things, that knows that she wants more for herself, that can see a glimmer of what could be if she could finally get the support and the skills and somebody devoted enough to walk the walk with her.
It’s like a little battle for your soul….. Faith, trust, heart…versus fear.
Start here..Let your strengths and the knowing that you have that things can be better, that you can be heard and seen in new ways be a possibility. That the fear you feel is understandable and part of what moving and growing through this point on the map is required. And trust yourself- that you have amazing guidance and wisdom inside of you that will be there for you, always, at every step.
That you can always always say yes to the parts you like and no thank you very much, to things that don’t really light you up.
You always have choice and at least around here, you will always have a voice.
I think fear is part of this journey.. or any big decision to move forward. But don’t forget that you also have that big heart, that amazing inner guidance, that shiny sparkly drive towards beautiful unencumbered health.
Being aware of all of it, holding the ambivalence with love and compassion can help move you forward. And so does sharing it out loud with somebody who can hear you..and that knows the territory and the stories well and can see you through clear and compassionate eyes. I’d love to help you sort it out and get to the other side. It’s a beautiful powerful journey that changes everything. That’s what I know for sure.
With great love for you and your brave heart…
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