One of my spiritual teachers used to say that if you are doing something that you wish you weren’t, you still have to bless it! If you are stuck in a pattern of shame or overeating, bingeing, purging, abusing laxatives or something else that feels like a “dirty little secret” why not try blessing yourself and the behavior today.
Say a prayer for yourself of love and forgiveness. You are still divine, you are sacred ground. Still. Who’s in? You do not need to name what you are doing, unless you feel moved to name it here as a way of releasing the shame… which can be amazingly powerful. But what if we join together today to commit to blessing some part of ourselves or a behavior/habit that we judge as unlovable? Nothing fancy…if you’re going to overeat, bless yourself and the overeating. No point in adding fuel to the fire with self-loathing.
Bring some love and kindness in and see what happens. Remind yourself you are doing the best you can in this given moment. Find compassion for the part of you that is in pain, and be a good friend to that part. Be as understanding of your own imperfections as you would be if a friend were telling you about theirs.
Bringing light and love to your heart, even when you want to beat yourself up for your latest “crime” or failing, is very powerful medicine.
For today, try a little tenderness. I want that for you.
Love from my heart to yours-
Lisa
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Denise says
Lisa,
Thank you for the prescription of forgiveness in blessing over-eating. It instantly relieves the pressure of judgement. Maybe this will shift my addiction with potato chips?
Linda Pucci says
I LOVE this idea, Lisa! It is so true that when we beat ourselves up about our so-called bad behavior, we don't help ourselves change it. I can't wait to share this blog with my psychotherapy & coaching clients. Thanks!
Lisa Claudia Briggs says
Hey Denise! Is it truly an addiction? I always encourage women to really think about whether they are honestly feeling out of control with certain foods. If you love potato chips and feel good about eating them… is it an addiction? Is there a way to eat them in a way that's more comfortable for you? Absolutely bless yourself and the chips and the eating of them and see if the energy shift changes anything. Crunch crunch and love to you! xox Lisa
Lisa Claudia Briggs says
Hi Linda! I'd love you to share it because we ALL do the beating up thing as if we've literally committed some crime, which of course only exacerbates our sense of shame and cycles the fairly innocent behavior around again…So not necessary!
We are beautiful and worth blessing and taking the sting out of all of the shame is such a good thing. Remembering to do it a bit trickier maybe.
thanks for the comment love!
xox
Lisa
Melanie McGhee says
I am a big fan of blessing ourself and otthers! This reminds me of a way of focusing in my yoga practice — if I'm feeling tension in one part of my body – relax and release the opposite place in my body. It's effective, yes? And the idea of when you are trapped in self-recrimination to slide over into blessing and forgiveness feels like a little sunshine on a cloudy day. Wait, I feel a song coming on!
Lisa Claudia Briggs says
Sing it loud and proud, Melanie!! Great suggestion around the yoga, will definitely try that, love bringing everything back to the body… lets our minds find peace when our bodies can relax first i think.
love to you-
lisa