Note- this is from my Home Study Retreat and book, “Recovering Beauty”Another place where we torture ourselves with comparisons and keep in crazy- time, is around our eating. Keep your eyes on your own plate, for goodness sakes!
This is a big one. I have been guilty of this for most of my life I am a bit embarrassed to admit. I have become obsessed with “how to eat” for ages. And I draw crazy conclusions that really spin me out of my comfort zone.
For example, if I see a woman happily eating an ice cream cone on the street I imagine she can eat whatever she wants, and therefore believe that “should” work for me. Uh… it doesn’t work for me. And the reality is I have no clue what that woman eats- and it’s irrelevant.
Some of what I most want to impress upon you right now is that what other people eat, or what they weigh, or what size jeans they wear is truly none of your business.
Focusing your attention on other bodies or ways of eating simply detracts energy from focusing on your body, and what’s right for you.
Right now, see if you can reflect on the ways in which you may be engaging in these sorts of practices. Do they make you feel better or worse? In what ways?
I remember many years ago I subscribed to certain fashion magazines. And my husband at the time observed that reading them, seeing the various models and such, always made me feel badly about myself.
And he was right. I ended my subscriptions. I am not suggesting that you need to take the same action- simply that it’s a good idea to notice where you compare yourself to others, and the effects it most surely is having on you.
We can only change what is ours.
And so it may be a very loving practice to begin to shift your attention to what is yours. Anything else is a kind of “energy leak” and will take away from what you can have for yourself.
As you “pull in” your energies and refocus on what really feels best for you, based on what you truly know and feel through your own Intuitive Body, life feels better and you come into balance with less effort. The angst of comparison muddies the waters and keeps you less powerful because your energies are all moving outwards instead of working for you from within. Make sense?
See how making these gentle shifts begin to work for you and let me know.
Wishing you much love and every blessing-