Body image and mindset are of course strongly related to overeating and weight issues and so getting to talk with Mara Glatzel of MaraGlatzel.com and the popular blog Medicinal Marzipan was an honor and a pleasure. Our interview was the first in a series that Mara is doing called “365 Days of Deserving“ and we talked a lot about what women ‘deserve’ to have in their lives. Mara and I share very similar views and so this was fun for us and I hope useful and at least thought-provoking for you.
The idea of “deserving” is such a loaded term. In the healthiest sense it allows us to take really good care of ourselves and to be reminded to live in ways that protect and honor ourselves.. emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
People often struggle with the feelings of worthiness that’s needed to support and energize these kinds of attentions and intentions. It’s hard to create a life of really beautiful clear loving foundational moment by moment actions towards ourselves.. to deflect the urges to sabotage and defeat that we often struggle with.
Another interpretation of “deserve” has more of the entitlement energy to it.. not the same thing at all. I was just talking to a client about the difference, and I know that for many women there is a lot of confusion about which is which.
And so Mara’s series about this topic is going to be something that I am excited to watch unfold and to hear others’ views on what the concept of ‘deserving’ means to them.. I love Mara’s work and if you haven’t read any of her brilliant writings yet.. go treat yourself.. she is truly gifted.
Also, while we are talking about what you deserve, I want to put in a plug for my new series here, The Wise Woman Council where each month 11 powerful women share their real-world private daily rituals with you. You will get some fresh inspiration and other ways to treat yourself beautifully.. You absolutely deserve it.
And of course, if you want some personalized inspiration and information to put into practice immediately, use the Contact form to see about setting up and Illumination Round with me.. 20 minutes to see if you and I are a good match.
With Love from My Heart to Yours..
Kelle Sparta says
Thanks for sharing this resource! I’m definitely going to check her out. I talk to women about unleashing their luscious selves all the time so I know the challenges around deserving. This is great work she’s doing!
Lisa says
Love the “unleashing” Kelle.. and yes, check out
Christie says
Lisa – your website is lovely! Thanks for sharing Mara’s site. I hadn’t seen the new look! I watched a bit of your interview. I’m just learning how importing listening to my own intuition is and that I do deserve to make space for that intuitive guidance in my life. Looking forward to learning more about your work!
Lisa says
Christie, thank you.. the intuitive is the voice we don’t always want to listen to but it’s quiet and persistent and on the money. Look forward to knowing you more as well. Love, Lisa
Bri Saussy says
I loved your interview Lisa! So articulate and well spoken! I love that you are dealing with women and the ways in which we don’t let ourselves feel that we deserve.
Lisa says
Thanks Bri..Talking with Mara was wonderful.. we have similar perspectives and it was a fun way to present material. Deserving is so important.. but also brings up issues for me around differences from “entitlement” in the less healthy ways. Love to you, Lisa
Jessica says
Interesting….there’s a lot to say here. “Deserving” is definitely an emotionally-charged word (and these days, even politically-charged). And being equated to “entitlement” has a negative connotation — but why? I think the negatives surrounding entitlement stem from *other people’s* judgments about what one deserves. (And of course, only we should judge that for ourselves.)
Lisa says
He Jess.. yes, it’s a really loaded word, I agree.. I think the negatives around “entitlement” for me have to do with the way we rationalize and justify things that aren’t good choices.. Such as ” I had a really bad day, so screw it I”m going to eat this”.. that is a really common way that deserve becomes entitled which is the battlecry of most addictive behavior I see.. big theme.. will be writing more on this. But I get your point and agree with what you mean. Love, Lisa
Julie Geigle says
Deserving…such a perfect subject. So many limiting beliefs that hold people back come from feeling unworthy or undeserving of love, money, support. Such a lie. To break free and realize the truth that each of us is valued and deserving of unlimited abundance and prosperity. Ahhh, now there’s freedom.
Lisa says
Julie.. great definition of freedom…I love to have clients talk about their ‘big lies’… xox Lisa
Patty Tanji says
Great post. I used the word ‘deserve’ a great deal when I talk to my clients about getting paid what they ‘deserve’. I never really thought much about it until now. Thanks for the insights.
Lisa says
Hi Patty.. This was definitely Mara’s topic and I had a fair amount to say (obviously.. it was a long interview!) but I think there are also other ways to look at it and will probably be writing more. Love, Lisa
Donna Spears says
I don’t think I have received a lot of comment that tells me I am “deserving” for something!
Well, I guess still can’t have it unless I let go of my fear of doing the unusual things and be out of the shell.
Michelle says
I LOVE Mara! She’s awesome & is doing truly fabulous things. I think the topic of “deserving” is such an interesting one because it’s easy to go too far to either side – either denying yourself things in almost an abusive relationship with yourself, or giving yourself everything in an unhealthy way, winding up with no money (or energy) left for necessities (or, I’m guessing another way that could show up would be binge eating vampire foods?). I’m so glad you & Mara are collaborating. 🙂
Lisa says
Michelle… YES, exactly.. that’s very much how I feel.. there is healthy deserving and then there is unhealthy entitlement and finding the balance that is emotionally honest and responds to what is needed for each of us requires some thoughtful exploration.. I love Mara too! and you! xox Lisa
Karen Ribeiro says
Mara is AWESOME! I love how she positions herself as a self-love coach. About a week ago I wrote on my mac “I’m Having a Self-Love Affair” in permanent marker and suspect it might just inspire others to do the same 🙂
Lisa says
Karen.. the best kind.. lasting and no real risks involved. Hope it catches on! Love, lisa
Danielle Dowling says
What a fantastic interview. I am so guilty myself at times of filling up my potential free thinking and reflecting space with Facebook, Twitter, blogging ect….that I don’t carve out enough time to listen. Good reminder. Thank you for this. xo
Lisa says
Danielle.. guilty as charged.. I was an incredible morning practice person for decades and my social media duties have really started to overshadow my healthier practices.. and I have been sporadic at changing them.. about to out myself in a major blogpost.. soon.. soon. Damn.. Love to you, Lisa