I started keeping what I call a Love File about a year ago. Very good timing (!) to be storing up so much love and sweetness in a place where I could easily read beautiful words from friends, family, clients.
An easy place to go where I could remember that in fact I was not alone, never have been, likely never will be. When I could be reminded that the people that most matter to me see me. They can see the parts that I forget about, when they are eclipsed by too many other feelings…feelings that may not feel like love.
I think you deserve a Love File for the same reasons. Because we forget, we disconnect, we start to swim in the danger-infested waters of our subconscious programming where all the old beliefs and painful experiences and trash-talk lie in wait.
Such goodness lives here. When I wrote to my closest friends last spring that Andy and I had decided to separate, the love notes that found me were a true balm. Even reading them now moves me to tears. The generosity, the warmth, the reassurance. I treasure those notes and all of the others I’ve kept. This is a gift that stays alive, that pulses with the energy of everyone that matters to us. So good.
A love file can bring us back into the present moment. And anything that does that will ultimately help us. In the present moment most things are completely manageable. We are not dragged into our fears of the future or regrets of the past. We just have to be with what is and remind ourselves of what’s true in this moment.
Learning to be mindful is protective. Remembering that we are lovable is essential.
I believe in the healing powers of mindfulness practices. I teach them to clients and friends all the time, and I can say with certainty that they are powerful and “work” in ways other healing techniques may not.
If you are not fully in the present moment, in the here-and-now, focused on what is right here, then your mind automatically shift into subconscious programming where all the emotionally painful thoughts and feelings live. Not pretty, and where neuroscientists claim we spend 95% of our time. No wonder we feel stuck.
Back to the Love File~It’s easy to get derailed in the course of a day. We bump into people and events that stir the pot of all the old beliefs and behaviors we’re trying to transcend. How great to indulge in a little love, on-demand.
My love file lives on my email dashboard. Anytime I feel moved by the loving words and generous hearts sending me goodness, I store it in the folder. Such an easy thing. But easy can still be powerful.
Words carry powerful energy and can shift how we feel, for better or worse, quickly. As the light wanes and we lose the pleasure of warmer days, nurturing a place of love and appreciation that is always available for you is a simple pleasure and a soulful indulgence.
With so much love and appreciation for you,