I’m writing something on the relationship between codependence and emotional eating at my home-away-from-home coffee place that I really love.
Where they know my name, and lovingly put up with my hard to hear voice and rasping… so kind and supportive.
And I have thought a LOT about relationships and love and how we navigate it all and how we stay true to ourselves even in the hurt or loss, and how to find some way to keep the heart soft and tender in the midst of any and all of it. It has been a spiritual path for me for sure these last years since my divorce and it has changed me deeply and in ways that have rocked my world and my insides… more than I would have wanted or chosen, and yet I am (mostly) grateful… honed in the fires always… that seems to be my way.
And so much of my coaching with clients focuses on softening their ways of being with themselves, softening their perspective and perfectionism, softening their reactions, softening their behaviors in ways that are more loving and compassionate, softening the judgements… all of it … softer softer softer.
And as I wrote those words I also thought about my voice… so soft. barely audible most of the time. So humbling to not be heard, understood, to be seen as impaired, to have to change how i communicate, to not be able to get all the words out… and the trauma repetition of not being ‘heard’ … or of feeling unseen, invisible at times..
And I think a lot about how can we give to ourselves, by our own hands, those things we so crave from others?
That continues to be the big question, personally and for sure in my work because although i keep most of my personal stuff out of work with clients and that is my training, they are not separate.
We travel in soul groups. We meet and are friends with those who are navigating very similar themes and issues as we are. And though the journey may be arduous and shake us to our cores.. we are given companions… soul companions, and isn’t that amazing?
When you are feeling unloved, or not seen or heard in ways that you long for…
Talk to your #IntuitiveBody.
Let it be the channel for guidance and wisdom.
Ask it a question and listen.
It will speak to you quietly, no fanfare..
Ask it the big questions.
When you are feeling an absence of love or attention,
When you’re not feeling seen or understood.
When the world is feeling way too raggedy and frightening.
“How can i love myself more in this moment”
“How can I feel more connected to the divine, in me and everywhere”
“What is mine to do in this moment”?
Any of those questions or find one..
Not the ‘why’ questions.. those don’t help. The answers
won’t really mean much or change anything.
Be with yourself.. with the mess, with all your parts, all yoru aspects and archetypes.. the beautiful gifts and the mess and confusion and pain… all of it. Make room for all of it. Be with yourself as the answer and the wholeness instead of the temptation to ‘get it’ from outside…
Support and love from the outside is of course wonderful and we are mammals and require connection. But before you go looking, come back inside. Stay inside. Find the love there. Find the quiet and connection there. Before you put anything out or look to the external…it’s different.
PS.. Just one call can truly change your life. I’ve heard it from the women who have taken me up on the offer for these complimentary sessions. I can help you with this, and it will make a big difference. I am opening up more calling hours.. free, no obligation, no sales. Just you and me, a full session of about 45 minutes.. Zoom. Private. Strategic, attuned, intuitive. Reach out. xo lisa
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