Until I ask them a few questions. One of the things I ask is if they can walk into a room and immediately sense who in that room is emotionally vulnerable, or struggling. If their radar lights up and “picks up” those people right away in a way that gets their attention.
The answer is usually an emphatic ‘yes”.
If this is you, you’ll feel things deeply in general And you’re attuned particularly well to the emotional energy of others. It can be strangers, old and young, and you’re of course most impacted by the relationships that you are closest to. Parents, siblings, close friends, partners, your boss and coworkers, and even your pets.
Because your own energy system is so “open” (there are lots of reasons for this.. will explain in another post) you you may already have found coping strategies to try to create some buffers..because feeling this much is not particularly comfortable. Which is partly why you may not necessarily be aware of your empathic nature.. because you’ve already found ways to turn-off or dull down the degree of how much of everyone’s energies you absorb.
I believe a lot of addictive patterns show up as ways to quiet the “noise” of having such good radar. It can be eating behaviors, or others.. The goal is to ward off the intensity of taking on the weight of the world.
There are many gifts that come with being this sensitive, for sure. But one of the major drawbacks is the wear and tear for you around relationships. You need a whole different set of skills, a different way to create boundaries, and comfortable ways to figure out who to let in and who not to..day in and day out.
Relationship dilemmas and questions are ultimately one of the places I support clients most.
When you pick up others’ emotional energy easily.. it can be harder to create the space for yourself that you need. Harder to say no. Harder to be clear about what you do and don’t want. Or even who you do and don’t want. The dynamics between you and others can feel overwhelming.. you may not have thought much about this, but if you’ve ever struggled with eating/body-dissatisfaction/painful patterns that are running you.. you may be struggling with empathy overload.
My teacher Sharon used to always tell us not only to “get back in your body”, but to always make sure that we weren’t energetically “in” other peoples’ energetic bodies and that they weren’t in ours. You want your own emotional energies and your energetic boundaries to be clean and clear so that you can give in ways that feel right for you. To give to others in ways that you choose and that are authentic. Not because you feel guilty, or coerced, or because you are “taking on” their emotional stuff.
This is tricky business. And something I really love to help you with. As an empath/sensitive myself, and having spent lots of time learning and training and practicing, I love working with women who find themselves with these challenges. Negotiating relationships comfortably and from a clean and clear place is invaluable and makes a huge difference in every area in our life.
I want that for you.