You are very likely aware of any excess physical weight that is on your body, but are you also aware of the other kind of weight you may be “carrying” around? That kind of weight is less visible or tangible, but its effects on you are just as taxing.
This other kind of weight, is more about the things in your life that are causing you to feel drained, worn out, the pieces that make life seem fairly unmanageable. The relationships that seem to suck the life out of you, the excessive commitments that you made just to be “nice”, the things that you tolerate day in and day out, begin to feel like a kind of physical weight in themselves.
Extra weight of any kind feels terrible. But what can you do? You want to be a good friend, or a good employee, good neighbor, or wife or mother or…..AHHHHH, (remember that commercial where the overwrought mother yells “Calgon, take me away!”)?
Make a list of those things that you are simply “tolerating”. These would be things that tend to cost you too much in terms of draining your energy and your spirit. The friend who never stops complaining. The umpteenth volunteer position you said “yes” to, which is pushing you over the edge. Clothing that makes you feel really unattractive. These are all examples of “tolerations” that are making you feel terrible, and that are bringing down your quality of life.
Take a good hard look. This is not a place to be sentimental or make excuses. If you are trying to release an eating disorder, or excess weight, you must be absolutely brutal when it comes to cleaning out your life around other kinds of baggage.
Pick something relatively easy. Just for today, don’t pick up the phone when the chronic-complainer calls. Let the energy-vampires find somebody else today. Don’t settle for a terrible breakfast eaten in rush hour in the car. Make time to have something delicious before you head out, it’s worth getting up 20 minutes earlier. Or decide to say no, to anybody asking you for anything today. Most things are not urgent, and it would be a good thing to practice saying no- if you need a way to do this, just say “Thanks for thinking of me, I wish I could say yes but I really can’t today”. Say it nicely and with a smile, and nobody will think badly of you.
Getting rid of the weight of the world is a way of setting limits and boundaries around yourself, that protect you from feeling overwhelmed and then turning to food. It’s an essential practice.
Keep looking for ways to limit the people and situations that are adding “weight” to your life, and learn to stop people-pleasing. This is one of the BEST ways to find freedom from food addiction. Begin to learn to put yourself and your wellness first. An eating disorder is truly life-threatening, and at the very least, really impacts your quality of life. You can do this, and I am here to support you, if you have any questions (this might be the perfect time to schedule your complimentary consultation with me, an Illumination Round.. about 20 minutes via phone, you + me).