The women I work with around losing weight, changing the way they eat and learning to love and honor their bodies in reliable daily ways (The Daily Essentials) tend to fall in one of two categories when it comes to eating.
Regardless of what their style of eating was prior to our work together, when women make peace with food and learning to eat in ways that support them, it seems to happen in one of these ways.
The first style of eating and making peace with the process tends to favor simplicity. They are drawn to eating within a smallish range of foods, and keeping meals simple, easy to prepare and love not having to give any of it much thought. Food becomes fuel, basic sustenance, and they enjoy it, but don’t want to spend lots of time thinking about it.
They may even have been “foodies” in the past, watching the Food network (what I lovingly call “Food-Porn”), creating gourmet meals, loving food-centered events whether it be entertaining or food-shopping, or eating out. But now they want to put food in a place where it’s not the main event and put more energy into other ways of nourishing themselves.
Now they like more automated ways of eating..having rituals for meals that are tried-and-true and finding security and comfort with sticking to those without too much variation. They have found that bringing in too many new or “sexy” foods can trigger overeating or binges and so they keep it simple and somewhat predictable. They may even stick with the same breakfast or lunch for some period of time..finding it comforting to limit choices and not have to think about what to eat at each and every meal. Simplicity becomes a comforting foundation.
The second group does things a bit differently. They embrace food, fall back in love with food and cooking and shopping and creating, from the new perspective of feeding themselves as beautifully as they can within new guidelines. It may be gluten-free or some other new iteration of what best works for their chemistry and keeping old cravings and binge-triggering patterns at bay but the relationship with food.. even if it wasn’t before.. becomes very sensual.
I have clients that send me gorgeous photographs of their plates at certain meals.. colorful, artful, beautifully highlighting rainbow hued selections of fresh food. This group is determined to love food in a new way.. one that supports their individual make up and ensures there is no sense of deprivation.
In my description of these groups you may have an opinion of one being “better” than the other but I would disagree. For one thing, the women I know often switch between groups at various times depending on how much energy or availability they have to devote to creating meals and attention to how they feed themselves. For another, the “best” way is what works.. is what is going to be healing for each person and minimize former patterns of pain around eating, binge-eating, purges or just feeling obsessive around what they ate/didn’t eat and all of the feelings that got stirred up.
Personally, I move between these two styles depending on the season, how busy I am, what feels good to me in the day.. and other deciding factors. Some years I am more “foodie” and creative than others.. other years I am devoting more creative energies to other projects and am happier keeping my food and style of eating very simple. I keep judgment out of it.
Which style has worked for you? Have you found a style or way of eating that’s worked for you?
Let’s talk- Email me for a complimentary consultation to consider how you might begin to find solutions to your personal challenges around living beautifully in your body. I will email you back, send you a questionnaire and set up a time for us to talk by phone or Skype.
Think about what you would want to ask me if we were to sit down for tea together..
With love and every blessing..