I notice a certain kind of apathy that begins this time of year.. not just around wellness habits with eating or exercise but overall. People start to play the waiting game…start to use external events to dictate how they will or won’t respond to their needs. Remember the old and very wise saying.. “No time like the present?”.. it’s a good one.
One of my biggest mentoring tenets is “Take Your Needs Seriously”. It’s incredibly common for women to minimize what they need and when they need it. This can range from needing to get more sleep, to knowing they need a vacation, or some time alone during the day, to giving up something that is “costing” them, like continuing to eat something they’re really sensitive to.
And this is the time of year, when more than any other, you are more likely to prolong the agony.. or put off what you know will support you until… until after this holiday is over, or that holiday is over.. or ALL the holidays are over.. until the New Year.
Does that work? Seriously, has that ever worked for you?
It’s a myth and most of us know it. I get that in the moment you may get a bit of relief by investing in the myth.. believing that things will be different on some magical date that our culture collectively invests a whole lotta energy in.. New Year’s Day.. but let’s see if we can shift this a bit so that you can support yourself in new ways.. ways that truly serve you.
If you play the waiting game.. the everything will be different in the future game.. the I’ll start Monday game.. you’re hurting yourself. You’re hurting yourself first of all because you’re telling yourself one of what I lovingly call “The Big Lies”. This is a big lie. What you want, what you believe versus the action you are taking are out of whack. You are not acting congruently. This causes suffering and shame.. And hiding.
If you think about it you will see how this may apply to you.
When it’s time for something to shift.. it’s time now. Your intuition speaks to you in present-time. You will hear the whispers and the calls.. now. Unless you’ve been ignoring them for awhile. Waiting longer and making some external date.. when the kids go back to school, after I finish this project at work, when… fill in the blank.. is giving all of your guidance away to something outside of yourself.. It doesn’t work. You lose the connection that is going to help you the most. Stop it.
It’s tough to make big changes on your own. And yes, having a loving mentor that can see you and help you take your needs seriously and transform them in ways that are just right for you.. is the best most loving thing you can give to yourself.. any time of year.
How about starting with a consultation– One that’s all about you..you already have a sense of the change or challenge that’s nipping at your heels. Women mentoring other women (have you seen our Wise Woman Council?) is an age-old tradition.. wisdom and nurturing handed down.. comfortably but powerfully. Take your self seriously.. and what’s calling to be seen and heard. The Wise Woman Consultation is a beautiful place to begin.