Your pain matters. It’s a messenger.
Women come to me in pain. After they’ve tried all sorts of other remedies. Other coaches, therapists, programs, self-help books…whatever. And many of the women that work with me don’t actually have weight issues. But they do have emotional pain involving their body, their eating, their relationships, their all-or-nothing perfectionism, their feeling too much, giving too much, not speaking up in ways that matter, not allowing their strengths to be seen.
They have pain from not trusting their guidance, from listening to what others think, to people-pleasing, to trying to change people in their lives so that they can feel better Or they’re drowning in grief, choking on resentment, longing to be seen and heard in ways that reflect their truth. They may be binge eating, they may be restricting, they may be purging with laxatives, or drinking a little too much.
They might be having an affair, or thinking about one, or wanting more sex with their partner, or wanting no sex with their partner. They may be sick with worry around their parenting, or trying to change how they feel towards their own parents, or trying to better parent their own hearts. They may be struggling with their business, freaking out about their finances, or unable to sleep at night, from any and all of the above.
When we’re in pain, it’s natural (and healthy) to look for relief. Something wants our attention. I believe that our Spiritual Team and our soul will create the situation or type of pain that allows us to hear the call.
I have been told many times that one of my gifts is my ability to be with great pain, without flinching. Your pain matters. Your pain has a language that we can decode. Your pain has magnificent symbols and meaning and messages. Your pain can be a liar or a remarkable truth-teller or mirror. And the journey of hearing, understanding and taking beautiful guided action….that’s the work I love and adore… 30 years from when I first began.
People ask me all the time, isn’t your work hard/depressing/draining/ or some form of that. And I say no…not ever.
Here’s what’s hard.
When somebody contacts me, and their pain is real, making its presence known, getting comfortable and ruling the roost. When it’s blocking somebody from seeing what’s true, their gifts, their options, their beliefs that are in the way, their Divine Identity.
And we talk. And I see exactly how I can help. I see the strategies, I see the openings, I see where I will be challenged, I see what the relationship between us can look like- the intimacy, the trust, the devotion, the fun.
But they don’t move forward. They walk away with vague promises of someday or another time, or when this or that is different.
And believe me I understand. I too have had times when I wanted the help but wasn’t ready to make the commitment, wasn’t ready to put myself on the line, wasn’t ready to release my way of seeing and choosing.
And although this is strong language, I see this as a form of betrayal. We betray ourselves when we don’t take our pain seriously. When we backpedal from the solutions we’ve sought out. When we get cozy with the pain rather than shake it up and see what we are meant to become.
This ambivalence and fear, this uncertainty, this reluctance to take action is part of the territory and also a big part of the process of change. The truth is most people don’t jump in with both feet. The thought of change, the investment in change, the giving up big parts of how we see and feel, requires bravery and trust. Trust in yourself, and trust in the other (in this case me :))
So much of how these pieces heal is in the relationship. The techniques may vary, the expertise the experience, the suggestions the “how”… may all vary. It’s the relationship that provides the container, the cocoon, the inspiration, the willingness. At least in part, the relationship inspires you to find something new inside of yourself, something that’s been waiting for you that wants to come into form, waiting to bring you into a new reality.
That is not work that drains or depletes or depresses me… It’s such a privilege and a powerful journey to share with those that have been willing.
This is a bit of a plea. Take your pain seriously, your desires and dreams and wishes for more and better seriously. Give some weight to the glimpses of your true nature calling your forward, through your dreams, your daydreams, and moments of clarity in daily life.
Exciting Announcement~I am reinstating “Serving Hours” offering them weekly for the rest of this year at least.
Serving hours are chances to experience powerful Intuitive Coaching conversations, for free. And to sweeten the deal, I give you my word that there will be zero sales talk. That even if YOU ask me what it costs to work with me, or to discuss a program with you, I will sweetly decline. During Serving Hours, you will only receive clear, supportive and mind-changing intuitive guidance. And should you be interested in exploring a working relationship, we will schedule that conversation for another time. This is a pure offering, meant to serve you as you consider what life is showing you. I love on the spot coaching, calling on all of my intuitive sight/knowing and my decades of clinical training. Solutions, ideas, insights and truth-telling are all available for the asking.
Please Note: Times are limited and reserved for those who have not yet experienced Intuitive Coaching with me. If those times are booked, I will consider scheduling those of you with whom I’ve had these sessions prior.
Serving Hours will take place weekly Mondays at 5 pm Eastern. I will have 2 or 3 spots for about 45 minutes each.
These will begin Monday September 19th yay! Let me know if you want one.