My clients, while all unique women (and a couple men), have SO much in common and those patterns that drive the emotional overeating and decades of energy spent trying to manage or lose weight and calm down the emotional battles around food and their bodies, are powerful.
The patterns have to do with depletion. With giving too much, doing too much, all at the same time as feeling ‘not enough’, which of course is relevant and drives the doing/giving/caring…
The feeling ‘too much’… both feeling a HEAVY emotional load, while also feeling the WEIGHT of what they take on ….
The empathy overload… taking on the energies, emotional load, responsibility of too many others.
The perfectionism… trying to do it all well enough… make it all look better, the all-or-nothing trap that is perfectionism at its finest.
The frustration and overload then turned inward… and where food comes in to save the day (not really but in the moment of overwhelm and resentment and depletion and frustration that sense of ‘i deserve this’)… Just for a few moments of escape, of numbness, of $%&# it…
These are some of the prominent patterns that hook my clients when they think they have an eating and a weight problem… The eating and the weight are the symptoms, the outcomes, they are truly NOT the problem although many lose their way around how to eat in ways that feel nourishing and wholesome and peaceful. Not to mention a culture that is insane around bodies, food, women.
Want to talk? I promise you i’ve heard it, helped heal it, and also dealt with it during my own eating disordered days (I mean decades). Where you feel alone, I promise you are not. Where you feel the deepest shame, the most overwhelm, and the fear of trying again because you have just done it all and spent it all and had enough.
If you can muster the desire to connect another time, please reach out. I have been the ‘last stop’ for so many of my clients who found deep relief and new way of being with themselves, of navigting their relationships, of healing their bodies, of telling the truth, of setting protective and helpful boundaries… and so much more. If you think you may be ‘the one’ who can’t be helped… well… I haven’t met that person yet although most of my clients admitted they too felt that way…After years of struggling, it can feel that way and yet it’s likely untrue.
Let me help… Even if we have just this single conversation, you may take something with you that allows a shift and some relief.
All love, xo lisa