One of the themes in my work with clients is the nature of “protection”. Protection is a lens through which you determine what relationships, behavioral patterns, may be harming you. It’s a way of taking yourself and your needs seriously, as opposed to putting yourself at the bottom of the list, and not addressing patterns and relationships that may trigger some of the addictive behaviors that I help clients change.
Everything changes when you make the decision to take yourself seriously, take the pain you are in seriously, and make choices that protect you.
When you start to see that certain choices compromise your balance and way of holding yourself in the world, including self-judgment that is demoralizing.. without being ready to shift these, you will suffer.
When I talk to prospective clients, or women that are new to my practice in the beginning of our work together, they usually tell me that they have known for a long time where they have NOT been protecting themselves. They have heard their intuitive voices and the guidance for a while and yet not known how to take action.
And, there is great ambivalence about the decision to dive into these murky waters and disrupt some of these patterns. Oh yes.. great big huge ambivalence.
When I interview women about potentially working with me, I know very well that often what their decision to say “yes” or “no” hinges on, whether it swims up into their consciousness or not, is knowing this is the kind of work that can shake things up.. marriages, relationships with mothers and friends, ways of being in one’s work and more.
Protecting oneself has lots to do with creating proper boundaries and setting limits. Telling the truth, in ways that are appropriate, versus losing it or going into blame, or regressing into archetypal patterns like Victim or Wounded Child or others.
Protecting yourself means getting enough sleep, eating the foods that are right for your body no matter what the latest hip food guru says, and parenting in ways that let you feel right in the world. Protecting yourself is also about helping you put the past to rest so you can live in present-time.
Protection is a big word, and it means many things. And it’s completely personal and customizable.. that’s the only way it has any meaning and the only way I work, of course.
And learning how to create it in ways that are just-right for you is best done with support.
If you think you might like some, I am offering more “Love and Service” sessions.. but only 11 this month, in honor of The Wise Woman Council’s second beautiful month. Email me for details if you are interested.. Spaces are filling.
Wishing you love and every blessing,